Books Relationship Rescue : A Seven-Step Strategy for Reconnecting With Your Partner
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Rating: - Not Bad
The Doctor focuses on The Reader, and hammers away at making the point again and again that it is The Reader, not their partner, that must embrace change and improvement. It's a strong book. I laughed at how he puts into light how good my relationship is by his standards of trouble. My reasons for buying and reading this book are the same as anyone's for buying a self-helper: uncharted territory and the wish of self-improvement.

My only concern is that this book would most likely never help those who are the ones who really need it. It makes strong points to this itself: You cannot control or change other people. And those who need this book are probably not smart enough to even consider reading it or seeing the need to change and modify themselves.

Thanks Dr. Phill. I am glad I read your book. It is strong and helpful.

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Rating: - Take Charge of Your Relationship
"When you own your relationship, you must hold up the mirror to look at yourself. You will finally realize that whatever your partner is doing, you are either eliciting, maintaining, or allowing that behavior." ~ 97

It is difficult to work on your relationship by yourself. That said, Dr. Phil believes you have a lot more control than you think. By analyzing your relationship you learn about the areas that need improvement. The book begins with a questionnaire of sixty-two sentences. You choose true or false then instantly find out if your relationship is in distress.

It takes quite a lot of time to answer all the other questions including sentences you complete and analyze. You may think you have a pretty good relationship until you see what the test results are. This book may even temporarily make your relationship worse, especially if you try to get your partner to take any of the tests. The 17 page family history evaluation did seem a little over the top.

This book requires you to make a commitment to making your relationships work. It is an extremely detailed program designed to improve your relationship in a matter of weeks. You learn to agree to disagree or to argue more effectively. You develop relationship skills instead of relying on the feelings (infatuation) you felt at the start of the relationship. Dr. Phil then delves into the dark side that can sabotage a relationship.

Dr. Phil completes the book with questions he thinks you might want to ask him and then in conclusion he writes a separate letter to women and then to men. For the most part this book is complicated yet engaging. The tests are fun to take if you have the time and they do reveal aspects you might not uncover in a more casual conversation. Dr. Phil takes on all the difficult subjects and puts the ball in your court. In one sense it can be discouraging to work on a relationship by yourself and on the other hand your partner might actually get involved in making the relationship work. "Relationship Rescue" is one of the most intense relationship books I've ever read.

~The Rebecca Review

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Rating: - Not Better Explanation Than The Title...!!!!
Dr. Phil just lately has been known in the Middle East through his program "Dr. Phil". I got to know Dr. Phil from quite some time.

This book is, as its name, a rescue procedure that the couples should follow. It starts with an inventory that each partner should do alone; evaluating him/herself independently, what were the weaknesses, how did I contributed to the failure/success of the relationship.

Then the real work begins..!!! Where the couple meets together and reviews the result. They should apply certain communication techniques. It is really very effective. At the end, the couple should agree and maintain certain techniques throughout the way.

It is not a book that you read for educational purposes, it is a life curing surgery.

For the best results, both couple should have the interest for the rescue. My advice, maintain the passion throughout the way, try to influence your partner if he(she) is not the driver for this process. It is a surgery...but very effective...

Wish you all the best while reading and applying this book...!!!!

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Rating: - "This is Not the Book for You if Your Spouse--Partner has Alcoholism"
Active alcoholism and drug addictions are "drop dead deal breakers" according to Dr. Phil. A helpful book, for those living with an alcoholic, who do NOT want to leave the relationship is Getting Them Sober: You Can Help! (Getting Them Sober). Alcoholism is a "drop dead deal breaker" according to Dr. Phil. This is the same
mis-guidance that has presented itself in dozens of books for the last 20 years----books that basically say, "divorce him now!".
Well, 50% of American families (according to the National Institutes of Health) have "at least one or two active alcoholics in them". So, Dr. Phil----in essence---is advocating divorce for 50% of American families. Whoa! Most of us married to alcoholics are so frozen with fear of losing our relationships (I know this sounds weird----but if you live with an alcoholic, you will know what I mean) that we have often have trouble ordering pizza in without cooking------much less being able to leave him. And Dr. Phil is basically just shaming us who are married to alcoholics. What IS the answer for us? What book DOES gives us literally hundreds of practical answers to helping the alcoholic achieve sobriety------AND helping ourselves and our children?
"Getting Them Sober" ---- the million-selling book that is endorsed by "dear Abby" Dr. Norman Vincent Peale, the employee assistance program at Harvard University, Melody Beattie (author of 'Codependent No More', who said "'Getting Them Sober' is the BEST book for the family of the still-drinking alcoholic".)